Hi There!
Welcome to our first stop in establishing a 15 minute practice of relentless self care. If you have made it this far – thank you! I am so grateful that you’ve spent some of your precious time and energy with me.
I hope you’re still here because you’re looking for simple, speedy, and sustainable tools and ideas that make ordinary life a little more extraordinary – one choice at a time.
Perhaps you are wondering, yea – ok, love the idea, but how exactly do I create all this meaning out of the mundane. I get that, it’s a bold idea.
That’s why I encourage you to Start Here and Join ExOr. I won’t bombard you, and I will try to stay connected. In the end, that effort is what matters.
Sincerely,
K
Please Pause
Sometimes taking a minute for yourself can bring up uncomfortable sensations and difficult emotions. If you find yourself in any discomfort – please reach out – to dear one, to a professional, to me.
I am not a mental health professional, by any means, but I have one myself and have compiled a Resource Library of Mental Health Matters. It may feel like it, but you are not alone and you deserve to heal hurts.
Newest Practices
Modern, Married, Midlife, Mama
Since I was 14, I've been hustling in some form or fashion. Jobs, school, internships, some such combination of it all. It feels strange to say that I have been an informally employed mama since late 2018. Nearly four years without work outside the home. Now don't get...
Balance
Yesterday was glorious. I focused a full day on ExOr. I moved, ate well, and power napped. I was mostly patient and present with my kids. Then, I got to go with a dear friend to see Brandi Carlile at Maymont, this urban gem in RVA, and it was magical. We opted to...
I’m Kristi, a pretty typical gal who was just recently told by a dear friend that I’m in midlife. I was shocked.
Then I looked around at my daughters (9 and 6), my husband (of more years than I can easily recall), and my accomplishments (not as many as I’d like) and found myself wondering if this is all that I am. It’s certainly not all I intended to be.
All this internal turmoil seemed pretty classic for this season in life, but then the pandemic hit and those inside voices just got louder and more unruly.
Consider – Why
When I begin to consider my why, it eventually evolved into Extraordinary the Ordinary.
As it turns out my whys are plentiful and conflicting – they are shaped by my past, motivating my present, and influencing for my future.
What would happen if you took some of your 15 minutes to consider your why?
Modern, Married, Midlife, Mama
Since I was 14, I've been hustling in some form or fashion. Jobs, school, internships, some such combination of it all. It feels strange to say that I have been an informally employed mama since late 2018. Nearly four years without work outside the home. Now don't get...
Balance
Yesterday was glorious. I focused a full day on ExOr. I moved, ate well, and power napped. I was mostly patient and present with my kids. Then, I got to go with a dear friend to see Brandi Carlile at Maymont, this urban gem in RVA, and it was magical. We opted to...
I’m Kristi, a pretty typical gal who was just recently told by a dear friend that I’m in midlife. I was shocked.
Then I looked around at my daughters (9 and 6), my husband (of more years than I can easily recall), and my accomplishments (not as many as I’d like) and found myself wondering if this is all that I am. It’s certainly not all I intended to be.
All this internal turmoil seemed pretty classic for this season in life, but then the pandemic hit and those inside voices just got louder and more unruly.
Consider – Why
When I begin to consider my why, it eventually evolved into Extraordinary the Ordinary.
As it turns out my whys are plentiful and conflicting – they are shaped by my past, motivating my present, and influencing for my future.
What would happen if you took some of your 15 minutes to consider your why?
Summer Self Care Challenge
Summer Self Care Challenge 07/10/22 | 15m Practice Summer Self Care Challenge 07/10/22 | 15m Practice 15 PromptsCelebrate & RelfectI began to create Extraordinary the Ordinary in response to my overwhelming grief and accompanying anxiety that I...
15 Minute Challenge
Guidelines –
Carve out some time in the midst of a very hectic schedule.
Seek out a peaceful space, and ask –
What feels good?
When could I fit it in?
Where do I feel most peaceful & quiet?
How can I make the space in the midst of so much busy?
Why does it matter? Why is it important? Why is it worth it?
Challenge – Commit to a 15 minute practice of self care tomorrow…
Summer Self Care Challenge
Summer Self Care Challenge 07/10/22 | 15m Practice Summer Self Care Challenge 07/10/22 | 15m Practice 15 PromptsCelebrate & RelfectI began to create Extraordinary the Ordinary in response to my overwhelming grief and accompanying anxiety that I...
15 Minute Challenge
Guidelines –
Carve out some time in the midst of a very hectic schedule.
Seek out a peaceful space, and ask –
What feels good?
When could I fit it in?
Where do I feel most peaceful & quiet?
How can I make the space in the midst of so much busy?
Why does it matter? Why is it important? Why is it worth it?
Challenge – Commit to a 15 minute practice of self care tomorrow…
Stuck
I am feeling stuck. Wildly excited by all that I want to do, constantly reminded of all that I have to do, and newly overwhelmed by all the other parts requesting that I make the space to do. For the longest time, I have been hectic - my day filled from alarm clock to...
2022
2022 is here and lawdy, it’s making me nervous. So instead of hibernating I am going to use these ADPIE tools and celebrate/
Build Connection AND Support a New Creator
Create Connection AND Support this Gal 12/18/21 | 2.5m Read When I first began dabbling with ExOr, I saw it as a way to contemplate and process and express all the many parts of myself that felt hectic up inside my head. Over time, I'm learning that to really live...
Stuck
I am feeling stuck. Wildly excited by all that I want to do, constantly reminded of all that I have to do, and newly overwhelmed by all the other parts requesting that I make the space to do. For the longest time, I have been hectic - my day filled from alarm clock to...
2022
2022 is here and lawdy, it’s making me nervous. So instead of hibernating I am going to use these ADPIE tools and celebrate/
Build Connection AND Support a New Creator
Create Connection AND Support this Gal 12/18/21 | 2.5m Read When I first began dabbling with ExOr, I saw it as a way to contemplate and process and express all the many parts of myself that felt hectic up inside my head. Over time, I'm learning that to really live...
Thanks & Giving
The holidays are bittersweet. I enjoy the time with our family, the traditions, and the dip into nostalgia, and I also begrudge the expectations, the relentless pressure, and the sense that no matter what we do, there is still so much missing. Not things, please know....
To Be 43
Birthdays are hard. I can't help but feel all that's gone, and still, there's plenty good remaining. To be 43 is to see that meaning. If you've been in the ExOr space, you've likely deduced that I get overwhelmed, stuck, and stymied by being a modern, midlife,...
Fall Transitions
It's that time of year again. Summer is rapidly concluding and the school year, with all its possibilities, is directly ahead. It's a time that always makes me nostalgic, reflective, maybe even a touch sad. These girls of ours are growing up - quickly and subtly. Our...
Celebrate all Varieties of Dads
This is the third year we’ve celebrated father’s day without one of my dads. I am honored and supported by the love of three other dads in my life – my husband from my youth, my dad from my birth, and my papa from the Hedrick side – I still desperately miss my the dad from the Overton House on the River. Sometimes I even wallow in it.
I wish so badly and sometimes curse very loudly that it hadn’t happened to us, but it has, and so, what am I/should we do about it. My dad used to always tell me, you have two choices, Kristi. And he was right, as always, he was right –
* get older or don’t
* be kind or be a butt
* heal that or hurt
* go through it or get stuck
* make meaning or feel mundane
* practice self care or …
Those are my additions at the end there.
Thanks & Giving
The holidays are bittersweet. I enjoy the time with our family, the traditions, and the dip into nostalgia, and I also begrudge the expectations, the relentless pressure, and the sense that no matter what we do, there is still so much missing. Not things, please know....
To Be 43
Birthdays are hard. I can't help but feel all that's gone, and still, there's plenty good remaining. To be 43 is to see that meaning. If you've been in the ExOr space, you've likely deduced that I get overwhelmed, stuck, and stymied by being a modern, midlife,...
Fall Transitions
It's that time of year again. Summer is rapidly concluding and the school year, with all its possibilities, is directly ahead. It's a time that always makes me nostalgic, reflective, maybe even a touch sad. These girls of ours are growing up - quickly and subtly. Our...
Celebrate all Varieties of Dads
This is the third year we’ve celebrated father’s day without one of my dads. I am honored and supported by the love of three other dads in my life – my husband from my youth, my dad from my birth, and my papa from the Hedrick side – I still desperately miss my the dad from the Overton House on the River. Sometimes I even wallow in it.
I wish so badly and sometimes curse very loudly that it hadn’t happened to us, but it has, and so, what am I/should we do about it. My dad used to always tell me, you have two choices, Kristi. And he was right, as always, he was right –
* get older or don’t
* be kind or be a butt
* heal that or hurt
* go through it or get stuck
* make meaning or feel mundane
* practice self care or …
Those are my additions at the end there.
