by K | Jul 20, 2021 | Consider, Start Here
I’m Kristi, a pretty typical gal who was just recently told by a dear friend that I’m in midlife. I was shocked.
Then I looked around at my daughters (9 and 6), my husband (of more years than I can easily recall), and my accomplishments (not as many as I’d like) and found myself wondering if this is all that I am. It’s certainly not all I intended to be.
All this internal turmoil seemed pretty classic for this season in life, but then the pandemic hit and those inside voices just got louder and more unruly.
by K | Jul 20, 2021 | Consider, Practice 15 Minutes
When I begin to consider my why, it eventually evolved into Extraordinary the Ordinary.
As it turns out my whys are plentiful and conflicting – they are shaped by my past, motivating my present, and influencing for my future.
What would happen if you took some of your 15 minutes to consider your why?
by K | Jun 19, 2021 | Celebrate, Me, Practice 15 Minutes
This is the third year we’ve celebrated father’s day without one of my dads. I am honored and supported by the love of three other dads in my life – my husband from my youth, my dad from my birth, and my papa from the Hedrick side – I still desperately miss my the dad from the Overton House on the River. Sometimes I even wallow in it.
I wish so badly and sometimes curse very loudly that it hadn’t happened to us, but it has, and so, what am I/should we do about it. My dad used to always tell me, you have two choices, Kristi. And he was right, as always, he was right –
* get older or don’t
* be kind or be a butt
* heal that or hurt
* go through it or get stuck
* make meaning or feel mundane
* practice self care or …
Those are my additions at the end there.
by K | May 7, 2021 | Me, Practice 15 Minutes, Start Here
Self care is the notion that a soul must be tended to or it will wither. It is this idea that wellness comes from nurturing all parts of one’s complex self. It is the relentless practice of making the time to consider & challenge, create & celebrate to enliven one’s soul and spirit.
According to the dictionary, self care is the act of attending to one’s physical or mental health, generally without medical or other professional consultation.
I love how straightforward that reads. Imagine a wellness intervention that addresses the body, mind, and spirit, but doesn’t require the cumbersome medical system, a big fatty bill, or a slew of aggravating obligations compressing an already hectic day. Sounds glorious, doesn’t it?
by K | May 7, 2021 | Celebrate, Me
Happy Mother’s Day to all the different kinds of mamas out there. The peaceful ones and those in turbulence. Those just starting the journey and those deep into the story. Those who carry their babies close and those who are unable. Best wishes to mamas who love the role deeply and those who are barely holding on. Here’s to the mamas who are trying our best and getting better over time.
by K | Feb 10, 2021 | Practice 15 Minutes, Start Here
Since my folks passed, I’ve been seeing a therapist pretty regularly. Lawdy knows, I certainly could have used it before then, but mom’s dementia and death, followed by my dad’s sudden and shattering departure 14months later required I make it a priority.
At first, it was mostly to help me cope with overwhelming grief and guilt and chaos. Lately it’s been a time for me to dig in and open up, and then integrate what parts come up with my most caring, and curious, and ideally, contented self.